There is one discussion that Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies all need to have, but usually it is the least pleasant part of the Sugar lifestyle, just because it seems so transactional. You guessed it: The Allowance Talk. You may have the question "How to ask your sugar daddy for money or an allowance" in your mind.
No one wants to seem like a gold-digger scare their potential partner away by not agreeing proposed terms. The factors that go into this decision make us squirm: age, looks, personality. . . No one wants to put a price tag on these things and it kind of feels like that is what an allowance is doing if you let yourself think of it that way.
If you use our tips, it will help you get through this awkward talk much more easily. And you will emerge victorious and ideally not feeling weirded out by the whole experience.
This is one thing that you absolutely must realize. Nothing will harm your soul more than staring in a mirror, analyzing very flaw, comparing yourself to other women, and trying to determine your worth. Do not put yourself through that. “Nice smile? 100 bucks. I wish my boobs were bigger because then I could charge more.” NO, NO, NO! Stop that! You are worth more than all the money in the world because you are a human being with a heart and a mind. Your looks are nothing but icing on the cake of your humanity.
Never, ever equate your allowance with your self-worth. Even the richest man cannot afford to own you because you are utterly priceless. You cannot put a price tag on your features or mark a discount for your flaws.
Here is what allowance is really about: It is about getting what you want in exchange for your effort and time. It is like a job. You get paid more for more time and for putting in more effort. You should can also expect allowance to cover costs of things you need to keep up with his lifestyle. If he plans to take you out to galas and other glamourous events, he had better shell out the cash to get you the appropriate wardrobe.
So instead of trying to put an arbitrary price tag on your self-worth, think like a business woman. What monetary compensation do you need and want for your time and effort.
Once you know what you want, you have to be confident that you deserve it and be comfortable asking for it. If he detects that you are not sure if you might be asking for too much, he will try to negotiated for a lower allowance. You have to pretend it is not as awkward as it actually feels.
A great way to start is by saying your dollar amount out loud in a strong, comfortable voice while you are sitting alone at home. Do it until you have dispelled any discomfort or inner resistance. Practice makes perfect. Say your number until you believe in it.
Do not waste time beating around the bush. Be direct. If you and your potential Sugar Daddy do not have the same expectations regarding finances, it is better to get that out in the open than waste everyone’s time pursuing something that is not going to work.
If you are inexperienced, practice what you are going to say beforehand. Say the words over and over uin front of the mirror until you know them like that back of your hand. It may help you to think of it as memorizing your lines for a play – you will need to know the words by heart and deliver them convincingly.
Most sugar daddy dating sites give you the option of posting your preferred allowance directly onto your sugar baby profile. Take advantage of it! Post what you want so he will be used to the idea of it before you ask in person. This will save you the hassle of meeting or messaging suitors who are not comfortable with or cannot afford your required allowance. It saves everyone time and energy.
Do not treat your allowance as your primary income. Being a Sugar Baby is not a job. You must be sure to always think of your allowance as supplemental. Think of it as a big adventure.
1. If you are going to ask for specific gifts, it is best to do so in person. Email is fine in some circumstances, but text is not. This kind of discussion calls for more words than you can fit in a text message. The reason face-to-face is best suited for this conversation is because there is a wider range of communication that happens when you add in things like facial expressions and gestures. It also encourages honesty because lying is much more easy to detect in person than through written words. It’s tough but true that if you are too shy to have this talk in person, you should probably not be pursuing a Sugar Daddy at all.
2. Timing is key. You need the to bring it up after the chemistry and attraction have had time to develop, but while those feelings are still fresh and strong. Second or third date is probably a good time. Experienced Sugar Daddies are likely to bring it up themselves, so be prepared in case they start the conversation before you do. It does not have to be awkward if you ask the right way and guide the conversation deftly towards the subject.
3. Do not waste your time if he refuses to discuss it or seems to be avoiding the conversation in any way. That is a sign that he is stringing you on and may indicated that he intends to take advantage of you. If you are suspicious that this is the case, go ahead and move on.